Get Over Being Dumped

Get over being dumped. The trouble with having a relationship end through the other person deciding it is that not only do you have to get used to not having them in your life but also accept the loss of face and dented ego that comes with it. It always hurts. In the long run you may see that your ex did you a favour by ending your relationship but at the time you may be feeling all sorts of horrible feelings. Even if you were on the verge of finishing the relationship yourself having the other person ending it makes it far worse. You may well also be worried about WHY they are ending it, going over arguments and things that have happened to work out where you went wrong and hoping they change their mind.



I am a qualified relationship expert with many years of experience. Here are my ten step guide to how to get over being dumped but be totally sure that the relationship is finished. Did your ex end things because they were het up about something? Have they been going through a lot of problems or feeling very low or depressed? Is there any chance that it is not really finished but that they will come around because it was not really about the relationship at all, or you, or they will change their mind?



1. Accept that it is over and look to the future. Going over what did or did not happen will only make you feel much worse.



2. Do not try to get them to change their mind or find out what they are doing or who they are seeing.



3. Tell yourself that if your ex is stupid enough to dump you then that ex is not intelligent enough to want to be with. It is their loss and anyone that cannot see that is a waste of time.



4. Look to where you may have gone wrong, i.e. did your ex dump you because you were always drinking and losing your temper. If so promise yourself that you will sort that problem before trying to get together with someone else, so that you do not have the same situation happen over and over again.



5. Embrace being single. It has a lot of advantages.



6. Make decisions as a single person. Do you want to go on holiday? Change your job? It is entirely up to you now.



7. Remind yourself of all of your ex's faults. Make a list of them.

Then whenever you start to feel lonely or miss them read it.



8. Remind yourself that celibate and single people live longer.



9. Treat yourself to a new look. You can now be whoever and whatever you wish and you can look as eccentric, outrageous or dull as suits you.



10.Give yourself six months and then re evaluate what you want in your life.



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